Hey! Its me again...Blogging. lol... So I was just having a convo with a good friend of mines...I would like to thank you for this wonderful topic! I think a few people can relate to this one....I know I can!
Have you ever had the wrong person doing all the right things??? lol..It sounds funny...but its so true. A person takes an interest in you and they start to do all the right things. For us ladies, they call to check up on you frequently, they're considerate, they hold great conversation and they actively listen to you, never forgets your birthday, buy you gifts, shares the same interests as you, sensitive, understanding, always wants to take you out...etc. But even though he does all of these things you cant help but wish it was another guy doing these things. You cant help but wish that the other guy had sense enough to do the same things that this "wrong guy" was doing. Every time your phone rings, you're hoping that its the guy that you want to be calling you, but your heart drops because its the"wrong guy" calling to see how your day went. You can be out on a date having the time of your life with this "wrong guy", and the entire time you are thinking about someone else. And its not that you dont appreciate this "wrong guys" gestures....you just wish that the other guy would do the things that he was doing. And at the end of the day you feel as if you should just charge it to the game and maybe force yourself to make it work with this "wrong guy" thats doing all the right things.....because at least he's taking an active interest in trying to establish a relationship with you...unlike this other guy. In reality you know that if you did settle for this "wrong guy" doing the right things...you would never be truly happy because your heart or should I say, Mind, would be so fixated on this other guy. This leaves this, "wrong guy" hurt in the end.
Emotions are very complicated...which sucks. The questions that need to be answered is, why will this wrong guy doing all the right things never be the right guy? Why isnt the wrong guy the guy thats not doing all the right things? And last but not least, what makes this "right guy" (or the guy you wish would be doing the right things) right? I will honestly say that I dont have the answers this time. I've pondered on these questions, and sadly ive been in this situation before. And honestly you feel bad because you only call the "wrong guy" when the guy you wanted to go out with isnt available to go out with you. Ive been in situations where at the end of the date I wanted to say, "Look..Im a horrible person, dont ever call me again...for your own good." lol. It eats at you on the inside because its as if your using this "wrong guy" as a practice dummy for when the real guy wants to get his shit together. And then you go through the phase of feeling like a dummy, because this other guy probably aint even thinking about you, and here you are not enjoying this "wrong guy" because you cant stop thinking about the guy who aint probably thinking about you! lol.
And if you've been in this situation.....we all know what happens next. You finally get frustrated and fed up with the guy who aint doing shit...and you MOVE ON! You start enjoying this wrong guy. At first you had to force yourself....but then it starts to work out and you actually start to like him. You have finally gotten to the point where you can go out and not think about this other guy. You find happiness and comfort with this "wrong guy".....and he soon becomes who you think is the "right guy." AND THEN.....when you are content with this situation....the guy who you wished was doing all the right things comes back into the picture! UH OH!!!...and you thought you had moved on, but sadly....you realize....not so much. lol. So now the right guy is trying to do all the right things....and you're confused....and angry. You get angry because you wonder why he couldn't have just had his shit together from the beginning....if he had done so, then you wouldn't have even needed to force the wrong guy to be the right guy! I may be confusing people a bit....but if you've been here before, then I think you will be able to follow me.
In the end you have to either choose to either be with the guy you wanted to be with initially....or tell him that he missed out and you moved on. But depending where your heart...or infatuation is...the final decision may vary.
I will leave you with this JAzmine Sullivan song...She explains her decision beautifully!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-WQQSla5Hs
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