Im up late....as always. Thinking....as always. I dunno why I cant go into deep thought before 12am. Maybe because my phone doesnt start ringing off the hook until this time of night...or should I say, Morning. lol. I have two monologues and a song to work on....but I need to write. This is another one from my heart to yours....hope you enjoy.
I often find myself straying further and further away from the possibility of love. Once you think you've finally got it all figured out in every aspect of its intricate nature, it changes the game on you. I dont think that no one wants to not believe in love. I think that we are forced to not believe in such a thing because of its ever so inconvenient absence. True love to some, is as God to an unbeliever. The unbeliever doesnt not want to believe, but because of the absence of evidence or lack of presence of this physical being, it becomes hard to exercise faith. Now this is not to say that I dont believe in God...because I love the Lord! I'm just making a comparison. Just as the unbeliever, many people wake up everyday with hopes that the possibility of true love will eventually manifest.
In my personal opinion...I don't believe in true love. Or at least not at this point in my life. I dont believe that there is only one person on this earth that you could possibly live the rest of your life with. I believe that there are at least 50 people in this world that you could potentially meet and spend the rest of your life with. Its all about which one of them you meet first. I guess that person would be considered your truest love?? lol. Or just a very lucky individual. This is not to say that I treat every person in my life as if there are 49 other people that could replace them. Because I dont. You may not ever get the chance to meet the other 49...but that doesnt mean that their not out there. Everyone gets the chance to prove themselves to be the lucky individual, and if they dont, chalk it up and pray that you run into one of the spares. lol. Honestly, I dont think that half of married couples are with their "true love".....I think I just pissed a few people off. lol. True love is a story about two people who were put on this earth just for each other, and who could never be with anyone else but that one special person. They can be put on two different sides of the world and yet they will still find each other through this "magnetic love foce." Kinda like the movie Hancock!!! yeah...just like that. Now even though Will Smith and the Lady were made for each other, and found each other no matter what....she still found happiness with her husband (the not so attractive average guy). Now I may be missing a few details, but you get the point. I think that even in the midst of getting to that "true love" there is a possibility that you will find someone else who makes you just as content, and happy.
True Love would have to prove me wrong. But I personally feel that its a waste of time searching for that one individual in which you believe is created exclusively for you. But thats just may be my opinion. I may sound like the Grinch that killed true love, but im speaking the truth of the matter. Or at least what I feel and observed to be true. But thats just my opinion, let me know what you think.....:-)
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
They Dont Make Em' Like They Used To!! Is Chivalry Dead??
ITS BEEN A LOOONG TIME COMMING!! SORRY THAT ITS BEEN SO LONG SINCE I POSTED MY LAST BLOG! Been sooo Busy, But trust we have much to catch up on!
Question of the Day! Is Chivalry dead??....Answer: It seems so! In my honest opinion it seems as if we need to all get together and have a damn funeral for Chivalry, because it seems to be rather scarce these days. Somebody probably reading this asking, "what is Chivalry?"....and I know somebody asking, cuz they are literally asking me right now on the phone as I type. lol. I should put you out there! But for those that may not be familiar with the term (slow folks)....
Chivalry: is a term related to the medieval institution of knighthood. It is usually associated with ideals of knightly virtues, honor and courtly love. The word is derived from the French word "chevalerie", itself derived from "chevalier", which means knight, derived from "cheval", horse (indicating one who rides a horse)....now thats from wikipedia, so you may need to check that source! lol.
But Today, the terms chivalry and chivalrous are used to describe courteous behavior, especially that of men towards women; such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, walking a woman to her door at night to make sure she got in the crib safe, taking out the garbage, buying her a pair of stilettos every now and then.... (Ok... think i may have added that last one), but you get the picture.
I am confused as to why these things dont happen anymore?! I hate it when one of my silly ass friends call me (you know I love ya'll) talkin bout, "I think I like him alot!" I reply, "Why, my silly ass friend?" the silly ass friend replies, "Because he so sweet! He be opening doors for me, and when he asked me out, he didnt make me pay!"....WTH!! THATS WHAT THEY SUPPOSE TO DO!! Women give men bonus points for stuff that they should be doing by nature, and things that their mother or grandmother should have taught them from the get go. Im not saying that a man has to go to extremes like throwing his jacket over a puddle of water, or slicing her steak into small pieces to prevent her from doing manual labor when out to dinner, but its the basic things that lack now days. Why dont men do the simple things like, walk his date to the door to make sure she gets in without being raped, Not expect a woman to pay for the date if you're the one that asked her out, Open doors (including car doors), Dont make her sit in a cold ass car with you in sub zero winter weather until it heats up (now brothas done got smart with the automatic starters! lol..), Pull the car around if you guys are parked across the world, etc...
All of the above are simple things! Maybe i feel this way because of how my dad treated me growing up....and I consider him to be a real man. But they dont make em' like they use to!
(Playing Devils advocate) Why men dont do these things? Answer: Because women dont know how the hell to act when they do them. I hate it when a silly ass friend says, "I dont really like him.....he too nice." What the hell is too nice?!?! ......and women ya'll know ya'll be sayin dumb ish like that!! Straight pissin me off!! lol. I dunno about my silly ass friends....but i like nice men.... It sure beats being with Ike Turner. A man walks you to the door late at night and you grabbin for your mace like he's the one who's gonna attack you!.......i know...cuz i done did it b4! lol!!!...it caught me off guard tho! We pull up to my crib and i get out and start walking to my door. He parks and takes his keys out the ignition and starts walking behind me. Because it was so out of the ordinary I had to stop and say, "Where the hell you think you goin?".....after looking at me like i was retarded he explained that he was simply walking me to my door because my porch light wasn't on. I felt kinda dumb. But i mean, why he have to take the keys out the ignition?? He could have kept the car running...that was kinda suspect...im just sayin! ( lowkey, I still think he thought his ass was about to come in....I have no way to prove it tho. lol)
In addition to women not knowing how to react to such actions, men also feel as if certain women don't deserve such treatment. I have a brother....I see some of the hoochies he kick it with....this is understandable. lol. You are treated the way you allow people to treat you. If you dont seem as if you require much, then you wont get much in return. However, I still feel that no matter how a woman Carry's herself, she should still be treated like a woman.
In Conclusion, Is Chivalry dead? If so, can it be resurrected? Let me know what you think!
Question of the Day! Is Chivalry dead??....Answer: It seems so! In my honest opinion it seems as if we need to all get together and have a damn funeral for Chivalry, because it seems to be rather scarce these days. Somebody probably reading this asking, "what is Chivalry?"....and I know somebody asking, cuz they are literally asking me right now on the phone as I type. lol. I should put you out there! But for those that may not be familiar with the term (slow folks)....
Chivalry: is a term related to the medieval institution of knighthood. It is usually associated with ideals of knightly virtues, honor and courtly love. The word is derived from the French word "chevalerie", itself derived from "chevalier", which means knight, derived from "cheval", horse (indicating one who rides a horse)....now thats from wikipedia, so you may need to check that source! lol.
But Today, the terms chivalry and chivalrous are used to describe courteous behavior, especially that of men towards women; such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, walking a woman to her door at night to make sure she got in the crib safe, taking out the garbage, buying her a pair of stilettos every now and then.... (Ok... think i may have added that last one), but you get the picture.
I am confused as to why these things dont happen anymore?! I hate it when one of my silly ass friends call me (you know I love ya'll) talkin bout, "I think I like him alot!" I reply, "Why, my silly ass friend?" the silly ass friend replies, "Because he so sweet! He be opening doors for me, and when he asked me out, he didnt make me pay!"....WTH!! THATS WHAT THEY SUPPOSE TO DO!! Women give men bonus points for stuff that they should be doing by nature, and things that their mother or grandmother should have taught them from the get go. Im not saying that a man has to go to extremes like throwing his jacket over a puddle of water, or slicing her steak into small pieces to prevent her from doing manual labor when out to dinner, but its the basic things that lack now days. Why dont men do the simple things like, walk his date to the door to make sure she gets in without being raped, Not expect a woman to pay for the date if you're the one that asked her out, Open doors (including car doors), Dont make her sit in a cold ass car with you in sub zero winter weather until it heats up (now brothas done got smart with the automatic starters! lol..), Pull the car around if you guys are parked across the world, etc...
All of the above are simple things! Maybe i feel this way because of how my dad treated me growing up....and I consider him to be a real man. But they dont make em' like they use to!
(Playing Devils advocate) Why men dont do these things? Answer: Because women dont know how the hell to act when they do them. I hate it when a silly ass friend says, "I dont really like him.....he too nice." What the hell is too nice?!?! ......and women ya'll know ya'll be sayin dumb ish like that!! Straight pissin me off!! lol. I dunno about my silly ass friends....but i like nice men.... It sure beats being with Ike Turner. A man walks you to the door late at night and you grabbin for your mace like he's the one who's gonna attack you!.......i know...cuz i done did it b4! lol!!!...it caught me off guard tho! We pull up to my crib and i get out and start walking to my door. He parks and takes his keys out the ignition and starts walking behind me. Because it was so out of the ordinary I had to stop and say, "Where the hell you think you goin?".....after looking at me like i was retarded he explained that he was simply walking me to my door because my porch light wasn't on. I felt kinda dumb. But i mean, why he have to take the keys out the ignition?? He could have kept the car running...that was kinda suspect...im just sayin! ( lowkey, I still think he thought his ass was about to come in....I have no way to prove it tho. lol)
In addition to women not knowing how to react to such actions, men also feel as if certain women don't deserve such treatment. I have a brother....I see some of the hoochies he kick it with....this is understandable. lol. You are treated the way you allow people to treat you. If you dont seem as if you require much, then you wont get much in return. However, I still feel that no matter how a woman Carry's herself, she should still be treated like a woman.
In Conclusion, Is Chivalry dead? If so, can it be resurrected? Let me know what you think!
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