TEARING DOWN THE WALLS TO BUILD UP A FENCE...a scary thing.

Hey guys....Its been a min, once again...but I promise imma get used to this frequent blogging thing. I didnt realize how many people actually read them....THANKS FOR THE LOVE. That makes me wanna Blog more. :-)....Today is one of those days where I have ALOT to say.

This is another one from my heart to yours....

Someone once told me, "Sometimes people put walls up. But they are not to keep people out, they are to see who is willing to break them down." When I heard this my first response was, "YES!! EXACTLY!!" But as of late I have contrary feelings about this statement. Its true, sometimes people put up walls as a form of protection. We build walls around our hearts to keep it guarded, to keep it safe from potential heartbreak. We even put up walls around our minds to keep that from being broken. One of my ships once told me the difference between having your heart broken...and having your mind broken. Now although the two may be hard to differentiate, there is a difference. When your heart is broken, it takes an emotional toll on you. You can actually feel a heartbreak in the pit of your stomach (not a good feeling). It almost makes it hard to sleep at night. When your mind is broken, you may feel as if its taking an emotional toll on you, however your mind is simply overly obsessing over the situation at hand. You dont even necessarily have to be in love with, or have an emotional attachment with the individual that breaks your mind. You simply cant stop thinking about the mistreatment or confusing actions in which the person displayed. When your heart is broken, you are more vulnerable a susceptible to forgiveness. But When your mind is broken you have to constantly analyze what went wrong, how it could have went better, and what you will do to prevent it from happening again. I say all of this in support of the fact, and to give examples as to why we build walls.

Although we may build walls with all of the right intentions, we may hinder the progression of potentially great relationships. Sometimes a challenging someone to break your walls down may read as an impossible task. When you build walls so thick that its hard for an individual to even figure out how to see even the smallest part of your inner self, it becomes discouraging and often times a complete turn off. I have been a victim of this before, and I must admit that I still have issues with walls. I think any individual that continues to run into BS will soon put up walls. I can honestly say that I've missed out on great opportunities because of walls. Walls sometimes alleviates the "benefit of the doubt" that most people should be granted. Walls often times make it easier to believe the "he say she say" about individuals in which you are involved with. Walls will have you to believe that everything that a person says to you should either be second guessed, or that they are telling a complete lie. Walls will make you bitter in actuality. A literal wall is made to keep things completely blocked off. It is designed to keep something in, and to keep other things out. We build emotional walls to keep our inner feelings and emotions in, and to keep anyone willing or attempting to see a deeper side of you out.
I've come to realize that you must give people something to work with. This is not to say let your guards down completely, but try building a gate instead of a wall. Gates are strong and they wont allow just anyone in. But A gate will at least allow a person to see a glimpse of whats on the other side, although they cant get to it at the moment. A gate gives the person hope that one day they can get to the other side. I myself am in progress of breaking down my own walls and putting up gates, instead of relying on waiting on someone else to do so. Try figuring out how to start breaking your own walls down in order to reconstruct yourself. Healing starts with yourself. IF YOU DONT HAVE THE PATIENCE, OR THE EQUIPMENT TO BREAK YOUR OWN WALLS DOWN...HOW THE HELL DO YOU EXPECT SOMEONE ELSE TO DO IT. Its a very scary thing...but you cant be truly happy until you do so. And this is from my heart to yours....much love! :-)