Protect your investment?? or Protect your heart....

This blog is dedicated to a good friend of mines...hope you read this and find the strength to Keep it movin'.....


Why is it so hard to let go? Why is enough, never truly enough? Why do we continue to put our feelings on an emotional chopping block? Why do we continue to work for something that will never be?....If the answers to these questions were cut clear and to the point then we all would live happily ever after. Sadly, they are not, so we are left to find the best answers to these problems.
Humans are emotional beings. God created us to live for love in order to survive. Weather you choose to admit it or not, we all want companionship. We will fully invest our time and emotions in this pursuit of love. Once you have made this investment, you will do whatever you have to do to maintain it. You look at a person in a dysfunctional relationship and you ask, "Why does he/she continue to stay in this F'd up relationship?" The answer to this is simple. No one likes to feel as if they've wasted their time. When you've been in a relationship or even "talking" to someone for a while, its hard to give up on the situation when you feel as if you've invested so much time and energy into it. History makes people stay. History makes people feel as if they are obligated to endure disrespect, mistreatment, and even unhealthy situations. History also makes you capable and willing to put up with things that you wouldn't normally put up with. In your eyes, you have loved this person, fought with this person, and worked hard to maintain the situation in which you and this person has, so by no means will you let it go easily. Even if its not on a "love" level, you may have dedicated time (moments you could have been sleep, you were up either talking or texting this person), energy ( You may have went out of your way to do a few things for this person), and even money (Dates, lending money, gifts, gas money to go and visit he/she). All of these things are personal and emotional investments you made, and no one likes to see their investment go bad. These things create an attachment or bond between you and this individual that makes it hard for you to part ways with them.
Its also hard to let go when you've made sacrifices. When you sacrifice parts of yourself, when you've sacrificed your inner thoughts, when you've sacrificed your deepest secrets, when you've sacrificed parts of yourself that you wouldn't normally share with anyone, it makes it hard to let go. This is because you are not only letting this person go, but you are letting parts of yourself go as well.
I'll tell a personal story, since i like to use everybody else business as an example...lol...Some time ago I was dating this guy....I hate showing emotions because it makes me feel weak. I am the type that will keep up a wall by any means necessary because It takes ALOT for me to put myself out there like that. I was dating this guy for A WHILE and we fell out about something and he was pretty much ready to leave me the hell alone. So i revealed something about myself that I would NEVER tell anybody. I told him this because i felt that it was the root to this problem that we were having. After I told him this, i felt real weak, but I also felt closer to him. I had invested a HUGE part of myself in him, and he appreciated it because he could now understand the reason why i acted certain ways. After this I felt even more invested and I grew to like him even more, and i eventually let my wall down. Things eventually turned for the worse. He started cutting up! and like a dummy i stayed with my investment. I was THAT girl. People would ask, "why do you put up with that??" At the time i didn't know, all i knew is that I wanted to make it work. I wanted us to be happy.
I now realize that protecting your heart is WAAAAAAAY more crucial then protecting your investment. Protecting your integrity is SOOOOOO much more important than protecting your investment. Protecting your sanity is ALOT more important than protecting your investment. You can invest your all in a person, but at the end of the day if you have nothing for yourself it is so not worth it. You invest in a person with hopes that you will gain an increase. You may feel as if you will loose a lot by letting a person go, but i PROMISE you will gain even more by letting them go. We forget that life goes on. Take some time to restore yourself and gain everything that you've given back.
This is why you hear women pissed when its all said and done (busting windows out of cars, cutting people, burning clothes), because by nature we give, and we give big. There are no lengths that a women wont go through to make sure that a brother is held down. Ladies we all know, your man cant be out there bogus because they're representing you. When your man is looking and feeling good then you look and feel good as well. And i can personally say that there are some brothers out there like that as well. But when you do all of the above, its hard to let go. Or when and if you let go, it gonna be an epic event.
But as i said before, no investment is worth pain. It may be easier said than done, but you gotta keep it moving. Pick up what you have left and take time to regain what was lost. Never go looking for a rebound, or someone to give what he/she didn't get the chance to get, but go and regroup. You may even find someone who is willing to give you everything you gave that other person. And this blog is from my heart....hope this helps my friend, and everyone else tuning in. Let me know what you think!