DONT YOU- EVER- GET TOO- COMFORTABLE!

So...im up and cant go to sleep...so why not blog....right? lol. One of my co-workers told me that her and her bf had broken up today due to the fact that he just wasnt, "acting the same." So they've been official for a few months now and she claims that he just isnt doing the same things that he used to do. When they first started talking it seemed as if he showed much more of an interest in her, now it seems as if he shows an interest at his leisure. She used to get calls from him throughout the day, he would send her random cute little text messages to let her know he was thinking about her, and he would take her out frequently. However, as of late he has done a total 180. He'll go an entire day without contacting her in any way, and when he does, the conversations are brief or he says that hes getting some things together for work so he'll call her back. She went on to tell me that he even stopped doing things like opening car doors, and the other day when they went to the movies he walked in before her and let the door snap back and hit her in the chest....wow....lol. I asked her if she did anything to make him act this way or if his actions were intentional. She said no and that when she confronts him, he apologizes whole heartedly and has no recollection of doing these things.
Three words describe this situation....COMFORTABLE AS HELL! This doesn't just go for guys...although men have the greatest reputation for being such....but it goes for women as well. People get COMFORTABLE...plain and simple. At the beginning of any relationship, the person who is pursuing will always bring their "A Game." It is important to do all the things you should do, or need to do by any means necessary to get what you want, weather its a relationship, a kick it buddy, or just sex. Men in particular, as we all know, love the chase. And women, as we all know love to be chased. Once you have given the chase over to the chaser, the chasee has lost all power and the chaser will potentially loose interest. UNLESS....you find another game to play on another level. NOW...you may say, "Im not for playing games!"....well my lonely friend, wake up and realize that relationships are all about "games" and keeping some sort of game present in the relationship. In the olden days, the role of the chaser was indeed the man....and the role of the chasee was indeed the woman. However, somehow, someway the game has changed. Men must have had a national convention that us women didnt know about, to change the playing field. ATTENTION!! ATTENTION!!! LADIES!!!! MEN FOR SOME ODD REASON....LIKE TO BE CHASED!!!! I know...thats friggin weird, right??? However, as I told my heartbroken co-worker...its up to you to determine if you're gonna be the chaser...or the chasee.
People don't get comfortable when they have something to work for. There is no time to put your "A-Game" on the back burner when someone is always giving you something to pursue. My fellow relaxed co-worker got comfortable as well on her chasee game...which has cause the tables to turn, hence she is now the Chaser. It all depends on what role you wanna play. People get COMFORTABLE when they aren't active. Raise the stakes just a bit more to get the other person active; getting them out of that comfort zone. If that doesn't work, then maybe that person just isn't that into you. If you think the person you're with is COMFORTABLE...then ask yourself how you've contributed to this comfort level....and plan/act accordingly. You can either continue to play the game and love em...or leave em alone. I'll `leave you with a quote from Lil Wayne and my boy Face..."I'm not saying this to shake you up, im just saying this to wake you up. Its all good when we making love, all I ask is dont take our love for granted, cuz granted...my love for you is real. if you dont love me somebody else will, so baby girl/boy dont you ever get too COMFORTABLE."....And thats real.